Don’t let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.Neil McCauley from Michael Mann’s Heat
A famous line from a very successful film. A line that many of us wouldn’t align with many of our beliefs no doubt. After all, this is a criminals dialogue that lives a life of cut and run with no remorse. For the 99% of us, we couldn’t possibly live by this motto. With our loved ones, careers and possessions the like, it would be giving up our identities on a whim that would make us feel inhumane.
But for the purpose of this topic, our Neil McCauley is displaying an ability to do something very important. His ability to make a decision and stick with it!
Whether his decision is going to be right or wrong he will have made one in a moment that will immediately set his course for all future actions. There will be no wavering, no hesitations, no dwelling on if the path he chose was the one worth pursuing. What is done is done and he will pursue his decision until it comes to an inevitable end.
Those two words
Inevitable end. Isn’t that a sorrowful pair of words to read? But everything comes to and end no matter how good or bad it is. Time destroys all things.
When the time comes for many of us to make a decision we often delay it, avoid it completely or choose one hesitantly with the baggage of fear that accompanies it. The fear of making the wrong choice plagues us. But in this life we are constantly faced with decisions we need to make. The trick is making the decision with intent. Even if we are not sure exactly of how right it might be at the time, we need to make the decision.
It’s indecision that will always bring us down. Every time we dwell on what might have been if we turned left instead of choosing to turn right we feed the depression that lies within. It’s indecision that lays dormant in us all, waiting for our attention to be brought upon it, so it can flood our thoughts endlessly.
Obviously we are all going to make some wrong decisions, the powers that be know I’ve made many. But it’s going to build our character stronger and bolder each time we go with a choice unrelentingly. If we screw up with a decision from time to time, own it! Admit to either the people involved, ourselves or even both, that we made the wrong decision. But from here we learn from the experience and hopefully set ourselves up for a better outcome if a similar situation arises in the future.
Don’t hold your breath
Just because we’ve learnt a lesson from a wrong decision does not mean that we suddenly hold out for that exact same series of events to present themselves again. As the saying goes, no river runs the same water through itself twice.
You’ve learnt your lesson and now it’s time to use that knowledge for whatever presents itself from now on. Don’t go searching endlessly for that do-over, that one more chance, that last roll of the dice. Everything that happens to us was always going to happen to us and most definitely needed to happen to us. For all things that break us (to a degree), make us.
Own it or let it own you
So own that decision with pride knowing you could have put it off or even worse, cowered away forever and pretended it was never in your power to choose. Be proud knowing that if you start owning those decisive moments they will not own you.
The next time you’re faced with a decision, no matter how important or not, be firm on yourself and commit as soon as you possibly can. Your gut has a lot more intuition than you believe it does!
Don’t look back, unless it’s for learning purposes only (no dwelling permitted here). Go get it you definitive go getter you!
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In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing. The worst thing you can do is nothing.Theodore Roosevelt
Self awareness is progression